Male and Female are Different, by Design

Different by Design, but Made for Each Other!

“You’ve got to remember that men are men and women are women.
And although a lot of similarities, there are some real differences.”
— Helen Fisher

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Revelation 12:9 states that Satan has deceived the entire world.
He is an accuser and the author of confusion. 

This article is about raising to your awareness the spiritual battle that is going on in society, across our country and the world, in schools, and in the mass media – that is, the war against gender.

  • Children, preteens and teens are hearing that it is no longer “cool” to be a normal boy or girl the way God intended you to be – you need to reject the norms that have been in place since the beginning, and be “different”
  • Movies, social media, teen “idols” and pop stars” being pushed by the mass media, are all claiming to be a gender OTHER than male or female (“pan sexual” is a popular label) – just so they can be “cool”, and say they are bucking the norm
  • Gender propaganda is being taught in grades schools several states now, confusing children about their gender – they are being told that “gender is a choice”, and not based on physical traits
  • There seems to be a mad hysteria about this, especially with young people. But hey, you want to REALLY be difference? Be the boy or girl God designed you to be!
  • Did you know that there are some key differences in perspective between men and women? We really are different, but complementary, when it comes to outlook on life
  • There are many scientifically proven physical traits that make a man and woman different! Check these out below.

Man was originally created as male and female, to be naturally complementary – so as the Bible says they would grow to become one flesh. Men and men do not grow to become one flesh, and neither does a woman with another woman. We were “fearfully and wonderfully made, as the Bible puts it, to be naturally complementary.

Lets look at each of the points listed above in detail:

What Our Children are Hearing: Its No Longer Cool to be Normal!

The media and the so-called celebrities that especially our youth are listening to a “role models” are all jumping on a bandwagon of saying they are “queer”, “pan-sexual”, or whatever, just so they can say they are not normal – and thus attract attention.

Here is the latest news on April 6, 2021 from (LifeSiteNews) — In a time where there are almost no taboos left to break and the ubiquity of violent porn has virtually eliminated our collective capacity to experience shock, it is difficult for artists to attract attention as they once did. With the meteoric rise of the rainbow movement, “coming out” as something or other has become a compelling career move. If you need a shtick, announcing that you are something other than straight is sure to rake in accolades from every corner.

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  • Thus, pop singer Sam Smith announced that he was “non-binary” (Douglas Murray wondered what the difference between that and shouting “Look at me!” was).
  • Miley Cyrus, the fresh-faced Hannah-Montana-turned-punk-chick, was sure to let the tabloids know that her marriage to Liam Hemsworth didn’t mean she wasn’t pansexual, gender-fluid, and queer. “We’re redefining, to be f—ing frank, what it looks like for someone that’s a queer person like myself to be in a hetero relationship. A big part of my pride and my identity is being a queer person,” she told Vanity Fair.
  • Teen YouTube star Jojo Siwa also climbed aboard the overloaded bandwagon, informing her fans that she now identifies as LGBT. Not that she’s gay or anything — most of the celebrities coming out these days are identifying as one of the other ambiguous letters, which allow them to be referred to as “courageous” and “bold” without actually having to do anything that used to make “coming out” difficult.
  • The latest example is Demi Lovato, who recently featured in a documentary series titled Dancing With the Devil and released a new album. Lovato is also a former Disney star and, like Cyrus, she has also announced that she is “pansexual.”

This is the gender confusing insanity coming out of Hollywood, Main Stream Media, and the social media channels that your child or teen is listening to. They’re basically straight, but since that’s so passé these days, they’re queer or bi or non-binary or gender-fluid — lots of great options for anyone seeking to break free of heteronormativity and into the headlines.

Gender “Choice” is Now Masquerading as Sex Education in Schools

In California, Colorado, Washington and other states, curriculum is being introduced to begin indoctrinating primary and secondary education students in “gender identity”; that its up to them to “choose” what gender they want to become, and that even though physically its obvious they are a boy or girl, they need not remain so.

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Here are some examples of where this is happening:

  • April 5, 2019 – The Federalist: Should a six-year-old be taught to use transgendered pronouns and believe in so-called gender fluidity? The leaders of Superior Elementary School in Boulder Valley School District, Colorado, think so.

    Last November, the school showed children from kindergarten to fifth grade videos from “Queer Kid Stuff” and a stage play about transgenderism to promote “acceptance and inclusivity” especially related to the transgender community. The children at Superior elementary were promised more. The email included links to three videos that would be shown to kids prior to the musical performance: “He, She, and They – What is Gender,” “No More Gender Roles,” and “Expressing Myself, My Way.” Some parents are outraged and are seeking possible legal remedies.

    Even more shocking to many parents is their discovery that BVSD has been trying to indoctrinate their kids for years.  BVSD reportedly pays about $19,000 annually for its staff to be trained by “A Queer Endeavor,” a program in the CU-Boulder Department of Education, on how to embed LGBTQ worldviews into curriculum—a process they call “Queering the curriculum.” 
  • Feb 3, 2021 – 770KTTH: This week, Seattle Public Schools (and other area schools) are teaching students in kindergarten to pick their gender, combat a so-called hetero-patriarchal society, and disrupt the nuclear family structure. The lessons are part of the Black Lives Matter at School movement. The radical, political agendas on gender identity and the family structure have some parents livid. These topics are not age appropriate.

    Teachers are specifically informed that their “students need to see how problematic our binary notions of gender are.” With that in mind, students must reject what their doctor or parents say about their biological gender.

How Gender Bending Indoctrination in Schools is Hidden from View

According to a recent article in The Christian Post, in the vision of gender ideologues, a person’s identity is defined by feelings that supersede the material reality of the body, she elaborated, noting that the gender-confused children are then fast-tracked to a lifetime of medicalization such as puberty blockers and cross-sex hormones. When cross-sex hormones are added after chemical puberty suppression, the child is sterilized for life, she noted. “So this moving sidewalk, this fast-track to transition through gender-affirmation is a huge thing. It’s so consequential in a child’s life and yet it’s being promoted in our schools,” Hasson said.

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Key points to note regarding how this indoctrination is being fed to our children:

  • This ideology gets inserted in various courses in the school system, she noted. Even though only five states require LGBT history to be taught, most of this ideology is furthered through “anti-bullying” lessons and “inclusivity” assemblies. Teachers are trained through professional development how to infuse this into other subject areas, mainly health classes, and now some are teaching “gender-inclusive puberty education” where male and female sexual differentiation, including normal bodily processes, is erased.
  • She emphasized to those watching: “You as parents and activists have to be the ones to bring this to light because the schools, unfortunately, are not doing this of their own accord.”

Primary school children do NOT need this sort of confusion injected into their development. They are little boys and girls for heavens sake! Children are not equipped to question what they are being taught, or handle this sort of nonsense. The public education system has no business pushing this false notion of gender identity and choice on young children.

But now that is the strategy of the evil force that we are dealing with in these end times. The Bible says that the devil is the “author of confusion”, and what better time to confuse God’s creatures when they are children, in the very formative stages.

Be the Girl or Boy You Were Created to be, and Really Buck the Trend!

The world we live in these days, especially in America or in Europe, is so morally corrupt that if one was to actually dress and look like the boy, girl, or man or woman you in fact are – you would actually be bucking the trend in a huge way!

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You would be standing out rather than blending in the the crowd. Rather than looking like every other gender confused person, you would draw stares and quizzical looks- with people wondering, “what makes them so different?Do they have something I don’t have?

If you are a believer in God’s creation, and you appreciate the manner in which He designed you, then yes – you do have something really special to display and share with others. An understanding for the way God designed and made you – to be that amazing boy, girl, man or woman He intended you to be. You have not bowed to the “prince of the power of the air” and his lies, the evil one who is behind this spiritual warfare on gender identity.

The Fact is, there are Only Two Genders, and that by Design

The fact is, ladies and gentlemen, that there are ONLY two genders – men, and women. And its been that was from the very beginning. This is a fact, and no amount of propaganda out of Hollywood, or social media, is ever going to change this. The Bible teaches this very clearly, and science backs this up in spades (read further for more about the dozens of real physical, mental, and emotional differences between men and women).

What the Bible Says about Male and Female

The distinction between male and female is very real and very deeply rooted in human nature and human physiology. What’s more, research indicates that it’s universal from culture to culture and that it finds expression in almost every area of life.

“Man” was Created as Both Male and Female, to be One Flesh

This idea is, of course, fundamental to the biblical view of mankind. In the very first chapter of Genesis we are told that “God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them” (Genesis 1:27; emphasis added).

  • Note this is at the beginning of creation, not later, not by some evolutionary process over eons of time
  • Also note that “man” is mentioned as being created as male and female – meaning the the term “man” (or “mankind”) included both genders – male, and female. You need both to have a man created in God’s image.
  • The very first command God gave to his new creatures was “be fruitful and multiply…” Another reason why God designed the man as a man and a woman – not only to be “whole”, but to procreate and have children, expanding their dominion over all the earth.
  • After creating all of the the other creatures, God notes that “it is not good that man should be alone”. And so He “fashioned” a female, and brought her to the man (Gen 2:22). Without a woman, the man is incomplete; likewise, without the man, the woman is incomplete. Together, they are “one flesh”.
  • When Adam saw the female which God brought to him, he recognized that he would be incomplete without her. She was exactly what he needed, and so he remarks: “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh”.

God’s design of “man”, created in the form of male and female, was by design from the very beginning. He did not create only males, just females, some sort of hybrid, or ANY of the so called nonsensical “genders” that the school systems and mass media are bombarding our children with. He created man as male and female.

Some Men Can Have Some Feminine Characteristics, and Some Females Can Have Masculine Characteristics

One of the sources of confusion that the enemy seeks to exploit is when a boy might display feminine characteristics, like play with dolls, or toying with makeup. Likewise, some girls may not be so “girly”, but display some masculine characteristics – like playing war, or dressing boyish.

Its important to realize that we are dealing with ranges in masculinity and in femininity.

The reality is that some men do have some feminine characteristics (may be a higher voice, or they way they walk because of build, etc.) And some women may display masculine characteristics, such as a lower voice, a masculine gait, etc.

NEWS FLASH: This does NOT make the man a female, or the female a man!

Parents must NOT assume that because Johnny is playing with dolls, he must be a “girl inside”. Or because Suzy is playing army with the boys, she must really be a boy. Children go through a period of growth and exploration during their formative years, and its up to the Parent to GUIDE them in their development as a young man or woman.

As Focus on the Family points out, “There are a number of distinctive traits that are characteristic of men and women respectively. These lists are not intended to be exhaustive – obviously, each individual is unique. (see below for the different perspective man vs. women have, and a list of proven physical differences.). There are many different “styles” of masculinity and femininity, and every reader could probably cite a number of additional characteristics that seem basic to his or her identity as a man or a woman.

Basic Differences in Perspectives: Men vs. Women

Focus on the Family’s studies show that men and women, generally speaking, have different perspectives toward life. This is not to say that there can be some mix between these perspectives in the life of a given man or woman, of course some women are very outgoing; and some men more introverted! But in general the differences in orientation or perspective hold true:

Male’s Orientation: Generally More Outward

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  • Explorative. Every boy and every man is on a quest. He discovers his identity “out there” in the world where he senses his larger purpose and destiny lie.
  • Determined to “deliver the goods.” A man places great stock in knowing that he has what it takes to complete the quest and accomplish the task at hand.
  • Needs to know what’s next. Unlike a woman, he isn’t inclined to “cuddle,” to “savor” meaningful experiences, or to “linger” in the moment. Generally speaking, he’s anxious to move on to the next thing.
  • Opportunistic. To put it another way, the male is a doer; and in the final analysis, his feelings about what he’s doing or his reasons for doing it are less important to him than the urge and the opportunity to get it done.
  • Takes chances. To seize and make the most of his opportunities, a boy or a man must be willing to take chances. Accordingly, a propensity to run a certain degree of risk is fundamental to the male character.
  • Initiator. All of this presumes a certain willingness and ability to “take the bull by the horns” and make things happen. It also suggests that leadership, while not necessarily an exclusively male prerogative, is nevertheless more deeply rooted in the nature of men and boys.
  • Active and aggressive. There’s an obvious connection between initiation and active aggression. In light of this, it’s interesting to note that the male brain is two-and-a-half times larger and more vital in the center devoted to aggression and action than the female brain.
  • Competitive and dominant. Men want the best and will expend incredible energy toward getting it.

A Woman’s Perspective: Generally More Inwardly Directed

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  • “Confidently enticing.” Unlike the male, who must go out into the world to find his destiny, the woman possesses her future within herself. She has a hidden but deep confidence in this.
  • Values intimacy above action. A woman cares more about being than doing, and she finds the reason for her being in relationship.
  • Wisely (selectively) receptive. Though she values relationships above all else, a woman does not enter into them indiscriminately. She chooses slowly and receives wisely.
  • Seeks security. Because her orientation is inward, toward relationships, nurturing, and “nesting,” the female of the species puts a premium on safety and security. To a far greater extent than the male, she values qualities like “dependability” and “trustworthiness” in a potential mate.
  • Prefers modesty. A confident woman knows that she possesses something very precious and valuable – the power of her femininity – and she is driven by an innate desire to protect it. Modesty is fundamental to her nature.
  • Caring. The female is more naturally inclined to respond to the distressed, the needy, or the hurting with immediate compassion and care.
  • Uses words. Men talk to communicate information or ideas. Women talk to communicate feelings and thoughts. As a result, women tend to use more words than men.
  • Desires equity and submission. A woman wants to be a man’s equal, but an equal of a very special kind. At a deep and fundamental level she has a strong desire to be led, protected, and cared for.
  • Wields “soft power” which shapes humanity. Women have the ability to wield great and subtle influence in marriage and domestic relationships.
  • Connecting. The female is wired to connect with others on many different levels.

Scientifically Proven Physical Differences Between Men and Women

There are some genuine differences in the biology, chemistry and mental make-up of men in comparison to women, and vice-versa. Here we list off key scientific differences, in the hopes that the next time you’re tempted to make an assumption about the opposite sex, you stop and take some time to consider the facts.

Men and women literally “see” things differently

Men and women literally see things in different ways. Men have thicker retinas and larger M cells than women. The M cells are responsible for tracking the movement of objects. Women have more P cells, which are responsible for identifying objects, as well as analyzing textures and colors.

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Men and women process information and emotion differently

Men use mostly the left hemisphere of the brain, while women tend to employ both hemispheres. More specifically, women tend to develop verbal capabilities in both sides of their brain. It’s this “design” which leads to a scientific observation in which girls will commonly use more words than their male counterparts if they are asked to describe a story, person, object, feeling, or place.

When it comes to responding to emotional experiences, men only use one side of the brain while women use both sides. Women also retain a stronger memory for emotional events than men.

Men and women’s brains really are different from birth

Male and female fetuses start showing brain differences as early as 26 weeks. At that stage, female brains start developing a thicker corpus callosum, which is the part of the brain that connects the left and right hemisphere.

Brain chemistry affects how men and women act under stress

During periods of stress, both men and women release the hormone oxytocin… but female estrogen combines with the oxytocin to create a calming effect, while the relationship of testosterone to oxytocin has a tendency to make men more aggressive.

  • “A new study finds that when men under stress looked at angry faces, they seemed to disengage, at least according to brain scans showing lower activity in brain areas responsible for processing other people’s emotions and facial expressions. In contrast, stressed-out women showed more activity in those brain regions.”
  • The researchers also noticed a hormonal correlation: The higher the testosterone levels to begin with, the lower the FFA activity when stressed.  They found no comparable fluctuations based on estrogen levels. The finding supports the theory that hormones may be at the root of the differences in men and women’s responses to stress.
  • It seems that when women are stressed, social and emotional areas of the brain go on alert, perhaps reflecting a tendency to reach out. The same areas in men’s brains seem to disengage.”
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Three dimensional thinking of two dimensional objects- appears to be better in men

Men are better able to think of objects three dimensionally than women are. This skill may have been developed back in the days when men hunted and regularly participated in competitive battles. Men’s parietal regions are also thinner than women’s. This makes it easier for them to visualize rotating 3D objects.

  • “The well-documented sex difference in mental rotation favoring males has been shown to emerge only for 2-dimensional presentations of 3-dimensional objects, but not with actual 3-dimensional objects or with virtual reality presentations of 3-dimensional objects.”
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Males seem optimized for problem solving, while females do better at computation

A study through a meta-analysis reveals that males tend to do better on mathematics tests that involve problem-solving (Hyde, Fennema, and Eamon 1990). Females tend to do better in computation, and there is no significant gender difference in understanding math concepts.

Men have more muscle mass, and thus “popped up” veins as a result

The more muscle-mass a person has, the more blood is needed to fuel it. As muscle mass builds, so do veins. Since men on average have more muscle-mass than females, they tend to have more prominent veins.

  • “Science has long acknowledged a difference between muscle mass and body fat for men and women. In one of the older but more comprehensive studies, published in a 1985 issue of the Journal of Applied Physiology, researchers used magnetic resonance imaging to compare skeletal muscle mass and distribution in a sample of 468 men and women. They found significantly more muscle mass in the men; also of note, the gender difference was greater in the upper body.
  • “A small study published in the October 2003 issue of the British Journal of Sports Medicine evaluated 20 Japanese college students (10 women and 10 men) and confirmed that the men had more muscle mass than the women. 
  • “An article published in the January 2015 issue of Physiology, from the American Physiological Society, notes that scientists have identified more than 3,000 genes that are expressed differently in muscle for women vs. men
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Men and women tend to navigate differently

Women are more likely to navigate using landmarks, while men navigate using direction and distances. So a woman is more likely to say, “Go straight until you hit the MacDonalds, then turn right and continue until you reach the top of the hill.” A man is more likely to say, “Drive north for three miles, then turn east on Liberty Street. Continue on Liberty for two miles.”

Women hear better than men – really

Girls have 11% more neurons than boys in the brain centers that control language and hearing. Not only do women hear better than men, they can also better distinguish between a broader range of emotional tones like crying.

Women feel more pain than men, and tend to worry about it more

Women genuinely feel more pain than men. When experiencing pain, a woman’s left amygdala–the part of the brain that is associated with internal functions–is activated. When men experience pain, the right amygdala is activated.

  • “Scientists investigating gender differences in pain have found that not only do women report more pain throughout the course of their lifetime, they also experience it in more bodily areas, more often and for longer duration when compared to men.” Source: Science Daily –
  • “We all have sensory neurons called nociceptors throughout our bodies. These send signals to the brain when there is potential damage to the body, and research shows that these are typically more sensitive in females: “there is an extensive literature from both humans and animals demonstrating that females have lower pain thresholds across multiple sensory modalities.”.
  • “Women also have an increased nerve density when compared to men. This article talks about a recent study, describing how they found that, “women averaged 34 nerve fibers per square centimeter of facial skin while men only averaged 17 nerve fibers.” More nerves equals being more sensitive to outside stimuli. 
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Women tend to worry more about their pain than men. There is no single reason for this, but hormone differences and environmental factors play a part. On the bright side, worrying gives women an advantage when it comes to foreseeing and handling problems.

A man may not be ignoring you – he just may not be hearing you.

During male fetal development, testosterone impacts the formation of the auditory system, and causes the brain to block out unwanted noise and repeated sounds. When a person repeats themselves several times, the male brain registers it as an “unwanted repetitious acoustic stimuli,” and they genuinely don’t hear it. Women on the other hand don’t have that skill.

Women are stronger in processing emotion and expressing it

In adolescence, the brain activity associated with negative emotion moves from the primitive area of the brain into the cerebral cortex where language and reasoning centers are located, but this only happens in girls. This is why women are better at expressing emotion, while men seldom “want to talk about it.”

Women may not be as sad as you think – they just shed more tears

The same hormone that produces breast milk in women also produces tears. Since women naturally have more of that hormone than men, their bodies produce also produce tears more easily than men. Some women have higher levels of the hormone, which makes them cry at the smallest stimulation, and not necessarily because they’re sad.

And you guessed it – men have bigger noses!

Men have 10% larger noses than women. There. We said it. Look, we know that the whole “which gender has the bigger nose” argument has been raging for centuries, if not millennia. We know how sensitive some people are to the issue. But it’s true, and the science backs us up on this.

Men have bigger hearts, and they beat more slowly than women’s

And we don’t mean figuratively. Men literally have bigger hearts than women. A female heart is about 2/3 the size of a man’s, and beats fewer times per minute.

  • “The average adult male heart rate is between 70 and 72 beats per minute, while the average for adult women is between 78 and 82 beats. This difference is largely accounted for by the size of the heart, which is typically smaller in females than males. The smaller female heart, pumping less blood with each beat, needs to beat at a faster rate to match the larger male heart’s output. Source:
  • Men in general have larger hearts; and women’s hearts beat faster. Source:

Different in terms of joints, ligaments and skin

Women have looser ligaments than men, which gives them a greater range of movement, and makes it easier to do things like the splits. The downside to this greater flexibility is that women are at greater risk of joint injuries.

Women have thinner skin than men, and are thus more prone to develop lines and wrinkles as they lose collagen from aging. Men also have a higher collagen density, which makes them look younger longer.

Men have a kind of “tunnel vision” when engaged in activity, unlike women

Male brains utilize nearly 7 times more gray matter for activity while female brains utilize nearly 10 times more white matter. What does this mean? Men and women think differently.

  • Gray matter areas of the brain are localized. They are information- and action-processing centers in specific splotches in a specific area of the brain. White matter is the networking grid that connects the brain’s gray matter and other processing centers with one another. This profound brain-processing difference is probably one reason you may have noticed that girls tend to more quickly transition between tasks than boys do.
  • This can translate to a kind of tunnel vision for men when they are doing something. Once they are deeply engaged in a task or game, they may not demonstrate much sensitivity to other people or their surroundings.
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Men and Women can be equal in terms of intelligence

While Men have physically larger brains than women, it is critical to note that size does not directly correlate with intelligence. What’s learned by experience or study helps forge neuronal connections,  which in turn determines intelligence.

Stand Up for Truth, and You Teach Your Children Well on this Subject

Our children are being attacked on this issue as write this article and get it out over the internet. Our children are being bombarded by what their social media icons tell them, what they watch on TV, theyy movies or videos they watch, and what they are being taught in their primary and secondary schools.

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If we don’t stand up for our children, and “train them in the way they should go”, the eveil that is behind this gender confusion will have them at his mercy. He will plant the seeds of confusion, and destroy their lives if possible.

Don’t let that happen. Speak to your children about the real differences, and the love by which God fashioned them “from the womb”

  • That they were designed as a boy or girl from before they were born!
  • That they are “fearfully and wonderfully made”, according to God’s Word
  • That God has a wonderful plan for their life!
  • Realize that if you “Train a child up in the way they should go, when they are old they will not depart from it.”

Share with them God’s design from the Bible. Talk to them about the God given design characteristics for your boy or girl. Teach them to be proud and comfortable in what God made them to be!

Let them know it takes courage to stand against the lies and deception that they are dealing with in school, from the media, from movies and TV, and even at times from their friends. Let them know that God loves them just the way they are!

Stand up parents for our children!


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